Friday, April 22, 2005

Shall we Dance?

There have been a variety of things distracting us from wedding plans lately--the move, difficult negotiations with my band, and my dad's illness, among others. But we finally have some updates!

Firstly, I called the bellydancer our officiant recommended, Farahnaz. She doesn't seem to have a web site, or else I'd post a link to it, but from what I learned talking to her and from references on others' sites she is from Iran, does Persian dancing as well as bellydance, and spends the bulk of her professional time teaching in various studios and performing at middle eastern weddings. All of which adds up to a pretty good-sounding addition to our party! There are pictures of her performing Persian dance in a couple Edmonton dancers' photo galleries, which you can see here and here.

Most recently, I finally went to look at dresses and entered The World of the Bridal Store. Quite an experience. I visited A Bride's Choice, which is close to where I live, because their web site stated that they carried evening dresses as well and I was hoping that would mean a wider variety of simpler, more comfortable selections. Well....maybe not. This was a full-scale, poufy white dress after poufy white dress, salespeople who come into the dressing room with you, mirrored room with pedestals for you to see yourself to full advantage, veils and tiaras coming at you from all sides bridal salon. The kind where they tell you not to consider practicalities while dress shopping because it's your day and if you find the dress you can't deny yourself by rationalizing that it won't work with the type of wedding you're having, the location, and the things you'll be doing that day. Because you're the bride, after all!

So. I tried on three dresses. I liked the first one best. It had a mermaid silouhette and halter neckline with a short train, and flowery, viney, three-dimensional appliques. The saleslady liked this one the least, I think because it flaunted the fact that I have curvy hips. The second one--strapless, corset bodice with lace overlay, sheer lace overlay skirt and train--was beautiful, but it was a Nicole Kidman/fairy princess dress. By which I mean it was matched the image other people have of me more than what I want to express of myself. Then we get to the third dress. I had talked about perhaps going with a colour instead of white or ivory. So I got....PRINCESS BARBIE!! Imagine a bright red, strapless dress, with rhinestones edging the top of the bodice, the waist, and the hem. Make sure the skirt is wide and poofy enough to be twice as big as your average doorway--before the crinoline petticoat is added. That is the picture of this dress! This was the point where the saleswoman (or the "wedding specialist associate") pulled out the tiara to put in my hair. Whew! It was a look that I would have loved when I was fourteen...but...seeing as I'm over twice that....

Anyway, though I knew I probably wouldn't find anything there the minute I stepped in, it was kind of fun to put on all the big dresses and pose on the pedestal. I still plan to find something simpler and off the rack, but playing "bride" for a couple hours won't hurt anyone!

After escaping the bridal store, I went to our local outlet mall. I did find one dress I kind of liked--the one in this picture, only in ivory. You can't see it in the picture, but the same beading pattern continues along the back neckline and down the back seam of the dress. The thing is, I think I like it in theory better than in execution--this is a cheap dress, not really worth even the low price it's selling for, and it shows in the beading detail. Plus, I would need major underwear to smooth, shape, and prevent unsightly bulges. I'd rather wear nice underwear on my wedding day than the modern equivalent of a girdle if I can help it!

We have given up on the photographer we'd been communicating with at NAIT--he hasn't got back to us in over a month and we're worried about reliability given our sporadic correspondence. We are contacting other people and places, and have a couple of referrals.

We are also thinking about our invitations, which may end up being as casual as these because we like the style. We are planning to send them out in May.